- “Perception is reality”
- “Appearances can be deceiving”
- “My brain has a mind of it’s own”
- “There are two sides to every story”
- “Life is not always as it appears to be”
One of my kids is a cop and he tells harrowing tales of drunk drivers.
I’ve met people in agony over loved ones who risk job, health, and family harmony by excessive drinking.
I’ve met individuals who want to quit drinking but find it super difficult.
My zeal to be helpful also got supercharged when I realized how many chronic drinkers want to get sober but oppose religious Twelve Step groups.
So…..I cooked up a plan. What if I gleaned wisdom from the Hebrew sages and wove their advice into “experiments in sobriety based on secular Proverbs?” Only fifteen percent of the Proverbs mention God, religion, higher power, or spiritual things. The sages claimed their words–including the remaining eighty-five percent–were inspired and designed to foster self control. So I’ve written a Kindle ebook for secular drinkers based on that eighty-five percent. I hope that ancient wisdom will be helpful in these modern, boozy, secular times.
You can buy a copy of ANOTHER DRINK: EXPERIMENTS IN SOBRIETY BASED ON SECULAR PROVERBS on Amazon by clicking here. $2.99. I’ll be discussing some of the contents of this book in the coming days.
- Get curious. Why do you think your partner is a couch potato? Come up with at least six possible explanations other than, “They are irresponsible.” Maybe they had a terrible PE teacher. Maybe they’re embarrassed. Maybe they’ve not yet found an exercise plan that fits their schedule and metabolism.
- Get sweaty. If you benefit from cardio maybe they’ll catch the exercise bug.
- Get separate. Who is ultimately responsible for your partner’s health? They are.
- Get tough (on yourself). All the benefits you get from exercising will be neutralized if you become anxious or controlling about their health.
- Get different. Your partner’s health and appearance are NOT reflections on how good a spouse you are. If people judge you for your partner’s health they are very shallow people.
- Get compassionate. Judging, scolding, and nagging only makes people more resistant to suggestions.
- Get talking: Which of these comments might inspire them?
- I want to grow old with you.
- You’re overweight and that bugs me.
- I look bad if you don’t look good.
- If you die early I’ll be all alone.
- I love you and am just trying to help.
- It’ll be fun to get fresh air, go to a gym, or take an exercise class together.